tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685337508262430251.post1406887432166754316..comments2023-06-18T08:44:48.866-06:00Comments on It Came From the Cabbage Patch: Coercion, or not?Lilliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02928083051697477498noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7685337508262430251.post-69671459587295719592010-08-06T05:24:46.875-06:002010-08-06T05:24:46.875-06:00So, so true, at least, for my situation! I can...So, so true, at least, for my situation! I can't really speak to the process your birth mother went through, of course. Maybe it is the shame (the aghast "I can't believe what I've done!) that causes people to say I was forced or coerced. It's like you feel as if you don't even know the person who did this thing...and yet it was you! It is really a shocking realization!<br /><br />And you hit the nail on the head with your comparison...adoption agencies are business...just like with car sales...if you can't afford to buy the car, you're better off staying off the car lot! So now I'm at the point where I'm questioning myself "why was it that I went to an adoption agency in the first place...like they're going to help me make the best decision!! Hell no! They are there to sell the product of adoption to you...plain and simple...and they are damn good salesman...it is also what makes pregnant woman who "choose" to place feel duped...the whole process-they hook you with "we'll help you make the right decision for you". But the reality is that they will tell you whatever you need to hear to decide you are not ready to parent and would not be the most deserving or appropriate parent to your own child. Lots of mind games involved. It is so much more about the mind...because the whole time your heart is shouting "STOP! YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU WANT YOUR BABY!"<br /><br />It is possible that some women were coerced...it may just depend on one's perspective of the word. But you are right!<br /><br />It would be helpful if all pregnant woman had to read a HUGE WARNING before setting foot within an adoption agency...BE FOREWARNED: PLACE OF BUSINESS-SELLING ADOPTION. NEEDED: YOUR BABY! PRICE: UNENDING LOSSES FOR A LIFE TIME! MORE PAIN THAN YOU'LL EVER IMAGINE! YOU WILL BE HELD FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL ACTIONS WITH NO EXCUSES OR BLAMING TOLERATED BY ALL ONCE YOU ENTER.<br /><br />Great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com