Wednesday, September 2, 2009

I'm Bloggin' Again

After a long hiatus, I decided I might start blogging again. So much is going on right now in adoptionland that I just can't keep my mouth shut.

First on my mind is the recent article:

Now, I won't begin by commenting on how utterly selfish and disgusting this woman is for her buyer's remorse. Oh wait, I guess I just did. Oops.

No, what really gets me are the heaps and heaps of praise that people are piling on this piece of trash of a "parent" for having the "courage" to dump her adopted child.

Yep, she couldn't bond with him properly (might that have had something to do with her 50 blogs and 12 self-promoting websites she spends all her time on? Or the other 5 children she already birthed?)

But regardless of Ms. Tedaldi's reasons for not spending enough time and effort on the child she wilfully and consciously snatched from another country and brought into her home, is it really a noble and honorable thing to basically terminate that child's Forever Family simply because he wasn't what she had envisioned a good, grateful little adoptee should be?

What stands out most to me is this line:

"I wasn’t connecting with him on the visceral level I experienced with my biological daughters."

Um, no shit.

But what if, say, an adoptee had uttered those words in an article, basically stating that he or she wanted to dissolve their adoption because they "weren't connecting with my adoptive parents on the visceral level I experienced with my real, biological parents."

Would that adoptee be called brave? Would that adoptee get heaps and heaps of praised shoveled upon them? I can most definitely tell you that, no, there would be no praise. It would rather be a public flogging of biblical proportions.

I kind of feel sorry for Ms. Tedaldi in a way. And glad this little boy won't have to suffer a life of being ignored and babysat by Spongebob. I pray for the little guy, and hope he finds himself in a home truly worthy of him with parents who are actually capable of doing what's best for him, and not use him for more self-promotion.

2 wisecracks:

Ungrateful Little Bastard said...

:) :) :) :)

I SWEAR, this morning I was just thinking how much I miss your blog

:) :) :) :)

So glad you're bloggin' again

Middle-Aged Moi said...

I just found your blog through "Our Little Tonnginator" and I would heartily agree. My son and I had a hard time "connecting" at all. I would say that sometimes the connection is still tenous, although it is growing and blossoming every day. It took a LONG time. For me, it seemed like forever because I wanted him to love me so badly that I couldn't see how much HE was hurting. I remember one mom telling me, "I don't care if you don't love him right now. One day you will. Right now you have to fake it." I know that seems harsh, but that was just it. I DID fake it. Until one day I noticed that I wasn't faking it anymore.....:-)

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